“You are best equipped to teach what you once did not know and had to learn.”
This quote by Rory Vaden, who founded Brand Builders, resonates with me deeply and inspired me to create the newest version of our How to Make Time for Your Well-Being training.
As a refugee kid who arrived in the U.S. with only my immediate family and grew up in a tenement building in the Bronx where my dad owned the luncheonette downstairs, there was so much I didn’t know, including how to speak English when I entered first grade.
But I did know how lucky I was to live in “the land of opportunity,” where if I worked even harder than my peers, I had the chance to build a great life.
I had to work extremely hard at both Bronx Science and Barnard because my classrooms were filled with kids who excelled at school without having to try as hard.
Somewhere in my teens I became a Prover.
A Prover is motivated by fear—fear of failure, fear of not measuring up, and fear of not being successful.
Provers find themselves in a never-ending cycle of doing more, being very hard on themselves, and worrying. Provers are prone to stress & depletion because they put so much pressure on themselves.
Yes, provers accomplish a lot. And in the beginning, provers like me are motivated by this mentality, but overtime it can lead to burnout, addiction and depression.
Being aware of my prover mentality has been extremely helpful. Now I know I need time for self-care to replenish and practices to be kinder to myself.
Our updated How to Make Time for Your Well-Being training provides your high-achieving attorneys with the wellness habits they need to thrive, not just survive.
Here’s a quick self-assessment to check if you’re a Prover or Succeeder: